Self Improvement Tips On How To Permanently Improve Your Self Esteem, Body, Health, & Brain Without Relying On Willpower

On this episode, Ryan sits down with Krystian Sarzynski, the Super Hero Coach to dive deep into Self Improvement.

On This Episode:

• Krystian shares about growing up in Poland and his struggle with traditional education.
• Learn how soccer helped fuel Krystian’s confidence.
• Ryan and Krystian discuss why you need to have a “warrior spirit.”
• Discover the role dopamine and your overall health plays in your life and business.
• Learn the formula to developing a successful strategy.
• Christian explains the danger of moderation.

Key Takeaways:

1. Don’t do what is common, do what is optimal.
2. Obsession is a necessary key to success.
3. You need to embody what you’re selling.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “At the end of the day, we’re all dream chasers.” – Ryan Allen Bell
• “Obsession is necessary.” – Ryan Allen Bell
• “Your status isn’t where you’re at, it’s where you’re going.” –Krystian Sarzynski
• “Our habits set the standard for what is tolerable.” –Krystian Sarzynski

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Ryan:       [00:00] ​You’re listening to episode 20.

Krystian: [00:01] ​Hey, this is Krystian Sarzynski, The Superhero Coach, and if you want to learn how to build a successful home based business, you should be listening to The Home Based Business Podcast with my good friend, Ryan Allen Bell.

Ryan:       [00:13] ​You’ve seen the future, you know where your life is heading, but you know you haven’t taken the right steps to get you there. Welcome to The Home Based Business Podcast, where we believe the only way to future proof your income is to create a plan to build a successful home based business. It’s time to create a life of freedom, security, and impact with your host Ryan Allen Bell.

                 [00:35] ​Hey, welcome to the show. I’m your host Ryan Allen Bell. I believe the only way to achieve true freedom is to future proof your income by creating a plan to quit your job and start a home based business. In this podcast, I’ll be diving deep in everything home based business related and interviewing thought leaders in their space who are creating successful home basedbusinesses. So if you want to learn the new way of business, if you want to develop the mindset and skills to get you from where you are to where you want to go, then you’re in the right place because this is The Home Based Business Podcast.

                  [01:03] ​Today and with Krystian Sarzynski, The Superhero Coach. We dive deep into what it takes to permanently transform your body, health and brain without relying on willpower. Tune in to optimize all areas of your health. Now before we turn to the episode today, if you thought about starting your own home based business, or you’re currently working on a home based business, but haven’t fully figured out how to achieve the level of success you desire, have me and my team help you out. Head over to ryanallenbell.com/workwithme to learn more and we can hop on a quick call to see if we can be a good fit to launch a home based business for you. That way you can achieve the freedom you truly desire in your life. That’sryanallenbell.com/work with me.

Ryan:       [01:38] ​Yo, what’s up? Today I’m with my man Krystian. What’s up, bro? How are you, man?

Krystian: [01:43] ​Hey, I’m doing great. I’m doing great.

Ryan:       [01:46]​Dude, I’m pumped to have you on the podcast to talk about self improvement, man. All right, dude. SoI really want to go straight deep into it. I want to go into your story and dive deep into who was Krystian before you became an entrepreneur, before you started developing this mindset? So who were you back in elementary school, middle school, high school?

Krystian: [02:07] ​Gotcha. That’s a cool question. First of all, thank you for having me. I’m super excited to share my story, and hopefully, you will come out with not just information but very practical ways to make your life, performance,and health much better. So really how things started for me is I had a lot of wins early on, you could say, as a little kid. And I don’t mean that in a traditional way actually because I sucked at school. My grades were absolutely brutally horrible, I was very slow to read but somehow, despite those things happening, my confidence was there due to how good I was at football or soccer. So that was really what was holding me up. Now I had attention deficit disorder, like I said, I was a slow reader, a lot of health issues, allergies. So outside of the movement of self improvement, I was set up to be a nerd, to be laughed at. But I had that with me going on in Warsaw, Poland, and then my family, at the age of 13, we moved to Sweden.

                 [03:14]​So soccer was already a huge obsession of mine and it gave me a lot of popularity. It gave me that kind of high–status kid feeling and it was my obsession. But when we left to Sweden, basically every single source of social interaction, of just pleasure and camaraderie that I was getting in Warsaw when I was getting into trouble with my fellow little gangsters, all of it got channeled into football because that was my only out. I didn’t speak the language, I didn’t know anybody, and we basically moved out to a farm. So I was just surrounded by my family. I had no other interactions outside of soccer. So I channeled all my heart into soccer for self improvement and becoming the best soccer player in the world, but my biomechanics had different plans, and I ended up getting injured over and over again. And as I got injured, my identity was basically taken away from me. There was nothing. I lost my sense of pride, my source of confidence, my source of achievement, and feeling like I’m making progress, I’m moving towards something. And so that really was hard on me. And as I was coming across a lot of professionals that were supposed to help me, they were very average in their problem solving. They were looking at what was common versus what is optimal.

                [04:40]​And this will matter a lot when we later dive into the mindset, but I was basically disappointed by the authorities and by the professionals and their—My obsession as a kid towards soccer was not something I observed in adults at all, and it was a very rare attribute. I basically became extremely curious. I started learning about biomechanics, nutrition, every single thingthat could affect my performance, my ability to continue chasing my dream, basically. I was very much a #DreamChaser in my soccer days, and I ignored everything else. And I laughed at all the teachers that were telling me to have balance and to aim for— I didn’t often have grown–ups on my side because of that attitude but ultimately, I ended up being able to solve my injuries. But through that journey, through that transformation of learning how to solve my own problems, learning how to solve my own struggles, that gave me an extreme competence in my ability to problem solve around health. As I started improving my health, I noticed shifts in my personality. I noticed that oh, damn it, I’m able to focus.

As a kid, when I was in karate practice, my instructor would yell at me because I wasn’t paying attention. And as he came closer and started yelling in my face, sweaty, red face, angry, telling me “Why aren’t you listening? That’s disrespectful.” I couldn’t hear his words because his facial expressions distracted me. But as I began to eat better and remove things that everyone else was able to get away with, I realized that my entire personality, my energy levels, everything is transforming. And then as time went on, I just noticed how sluggish everyone is compared to me with their self improvement, how little energy, how little drive, and I began seeing the patterns of like, even people with the right philosophy when they don’t have health on their side, they’re not able to get to those standards. I ended up falling out of love with soccer eventually, and I got tired kind of playing that game. So I expanded and became more interested in the bigger game going on, in the financial game,in the personal growth game, in life, and just becoming as competent as I possibly can, and live a meaningful life and kind of get hooked on that. So that’s how I got here.

Ryan:       [07:15] ​Wow, bro, I’m going to unwrap a few of the things that you talked about but that is an incredible story. The biggest takeaway I get from that is you were a dream chaser. And at the end of the day, we’re all dream chasers, we just are pursuing a certain dream, everyone’s different. For you at the time, it was sports. And what’s interesting, a lot of entrepreneurs I talked to,even myself, we started in sports, because that’s where we developed the confidence to pursue something and achieve something. And with that’show we increase and get better over time. So it’s just it’s incredible to see that you started in sports, you build that confidence, and what you said is you built an obsession around that with self improvement. And I feel like we don’t talk about it that much when it comes to obsession is I believe obsession is necessary to get to a certain level, to get to a certain vision for our life. And maybe you could talk a little bit more about the obsession piece, man, because I believe that’s super key for us achieving success in our life. So when you were playing soccer when you were obsessed, what was your mindset around that time? Was that all you were focusing on? Or where was your mind when you were obsessed with your soccer career?

Krystian: [08:35] ​Absolutely. Yeah, it was almost like an involuntary obsession that kind of developed out of the— Because the pattern of injuries happened to multiple people, it wasn’t just me. There was a lot of people that were getting injured, but what I was seeing is that as people got injured, they basically used it as a reason to— They had their story, but there was this famous story of “I was going to be a professional athlete, but I got shot in the knee by an arrow”, and I just really didn’t want that. The people that represented that kind of lack of responsibility and lack of ownership on self improvement, I really didn’t want that. So there was a lot of pain, there was a lot of negative emotion and I don’t think people talk about it enough. They talk about this pursuing positive emotion, pursuing their passion, pursuing their purpose. But ultimately, purpose is also, and this is something I do with my clients is we create a hell to run away from and there was a hell that I absolutely didn’t want to enter into. I didn’t want to be average and I felt that it wasn’t for me. And I was committed towards going 100% in, and my standards were way higher. The stakes that I was playing were way higher.

                 [09:55]​Now with books, I wasn’t leveraging my obsession to the fullest capacity because sometimes I was bathing in negative emotion because of that. But as time went on, it became something that I’m proud of is that I had fire under my butt and that’s actually corresponding to cortisol. And high performers do have a cortisol spike from lack of progress. Our stress response is literally triggered by a lack of progress, lack of movement forward. So it was yeah, an obsession is definitely, that’s what my thoughts were circulating around. That’s what I was thinking about. That’s what I was dreaming about. Yeah.

Ryan:       [10:40] ​Wow. Incredible. Yeah. And I love what you said when you got this injury, which is actually really common, and what’s interesting is injuries for athletes that could either make you or break you, but you actually used that, even though temporarily it changed your identity. You used it to transition into a different version of yourself to learn how to improve self esteem. You said your personality transformed, and you realized, hey, you weren’t getting the help that you needed to get from these people who are supposed to be helping you, so “Okay, let me let me dive deep into this information.” That’s when you start getting into biomechanics, you’re like, “I need to learn this myself and so I could be at my peak performance 24/7.” And so tell me what happens once you get into this phase. After the personality change, after you start diving deep into biomechanics, what’s the next step when it comes to developing your mindset and getting into entrepreneurship from this point forward?

Krystian: [11:38] ​Yeah, I was first exposed to actually network marketing when I was 17, 18, and me and a friend got pulled by another friend. He was keeping something secret and so he sparked our curiosity. We were like, “What is going on?” And what’s so funny about how to improve self esteem that is that me and my friend went, and this friend of mine basically presented the opportunity to us. And looking back, I remember that it sucked but there was the potential. It was a high risk, high reward situation, no matter how you see it. And at the time, it was like $80 investment and I just didn’t have that at all. But basically, my friend was like, “Hell no, that sounds awful, hard” and I was like, “Hell yes. If somebody can do it, I can do it.”

                 [12:33]​So I was doing the best that for about three months during summer when soccer wasn’t as big of a focus, but it really exposed me to how does that kind of warrior spirit, how does that kind of ambition look like outside of sports, right? And we talked about, you mentioned athleticism and sports being something that allows a lot of people to develop their drive and kind of experience higher states of being. And it’s true and that’s why it has been in cultures for such a long time because it represents something bigger. It’s not a game. It’s a representation, just like a story or a really old story, as in it has principles to it that can be applied to other things. Yeah, I felt like network marketing was the equivalent of sports in real life. And getting paid for performance was something that I way preferred. So that’s my first interaction with it.

Ryan:       [13:34] ​Wow, I love that. And yeah, no, it’s incredible. In sports, you’re going after a goal and that’s the same thing in business, except in business it’s promotions, it’s financial, it’s hierarchy, it’s all that stuff, and that’s what we’re going after. So I love what you said, warrior spirit, man, because at the end of the day, when we’re pursuing whatever we’re pursuing, if we develop that warrior spirit within us, that’s what drives us every single day. That’s what gets us up, motivates us, inspires us. When we go to bed at night, we’re happy with the day. When we wake up the next morning, you’relike, “Yeah, let’s get it. Let’s go after our goals.” And so let’s dive deep into that and how did having this warrior spirit really help you progress from this point forward after getting involved in network marketing and kind of becoming you?

Krystian: [14:26] ​Absolutely. There’s a cool synonym concept and it’s called the four archetypes,and this applies specifically to what we’re talking about. But basically, the four archetypes are developing your warrior. Your archetypes are basically personalities that seem to have a consistent existence in human cultures. And warrior archetype is one of them, and they each have a mastery over particular biochemistry and a particular competence within particular neurochemistry, which we can dive into later. But there is warrior, there is king and there’s the magician. The king is more like, it has to do with your serotonin. It’s more about how you hold yourself, how you present yourself,how you speak, how you act, your confidence outside of references almost,like a belief in yourself. Magician is more like the creative side of things – creation. And then we have the lover, which could be more empathetic side of things and caring. And I definitely was early on, I was a developedwarrior. And warrior is represented of your competence, of focus on developing your own competence and of being ready for battle, so to say, being able to handle difficult circumstances. And so I was pushed into having to develop that role early on, and it definitely benefited me in every situation of life. And a lot of it can be developed through physical training.

Ryan:       [16:02] ​Wow. So you’re saying that the four archetypes, you have warrior,king, magician, and lover, right?

Krystian: [16:08] ​Yeah.

Ryan:       [16:08] ​And every single person represents one of these or can we represent multiple?

Krystian: [16:13] ​We can embody all of them.

Ryan:       [16:15] ​Okay.

Krystian: [16:17] ​It’s a union idea, which Carl Jung was a very intelligent psychologist,but it basically creates a map for developing as a person, and which sides you could be working on developing further, so to say.

Ryan:       [16:32] ​Yeah, because of Reddit what I could see is, if we could see our own archetype within us, then we could capitalize on that strength, and know how to progress in the world, how to progress with our relationships, how to progress with our businesses, or sports or whatever we’re pursuing.

Krystian: [16:50] ​And oftentimes, it almost doesn’t matter much where you’re at, what matters is where you want to go. And to be honest, we all should be working on developing. We’re going to apply those drives into different things, and to a different extent, but there’s always, as far as becoming the highest, most competent version of yourself as you can, then all of them should be on something that you think about. So there were definitely other aspects of my own personality that I had to work on extra much.

Ryan:       [17:26] ​Yeah. So my question is with podcasts, how do the archetypes relate to biochemistry? And then how have you used this inside of your personal business?

Krystian: [17:37] ​Yeah, so it’s something that I don’t talk much about outside of coaching calls because it’s super interesting, but it can be a little complex. The warrior archetype, basically— So I’ll talk about what dopamine does and what serotonin does. Dopamine is what makes you do everything. Dopamine is responsible for the feeling of want, and what your dopamine is attached to, and what it makes you do, is what you do. Your existing habits right now are an exact representation of how much, each of these habits,how much dopamine it releases. Now, they interact with serotonin, so dopamine interacts with serotonin. But serotonin is more your measure of status. Efficacy modulates your confidence – how confident should you feel? And it measures okay, how good is your life going? How good has it been? How is it now? And where are you heading? Because part of your status isn’t only where you’re at right now, but also where you’re heading. So that’s the measure of how you scale in the dominance hierarchy. And that’s extremely relevant in sales or any kind of influence because ultimately the person with higher serotonin is going to influence the other person. And the embodiment of the warrior is really when your dopamine is congruent with what your serotonin measures. So if your dopamine— If you’re motivated by things that make you proud, that’s the warrior within you.

Ryan:       [19:09] ​So my question is, how does one figure out how to use dopamine and serotonin for their benefit instead of using it against them? Because that’s what it sounds like what you do in your work is you really get to know people and you educate people on the biochemistry and the neuroscience of how they even operate as a human being. And it’s like, “Okay, cool. This is how you work. Now, this is how you use it to your advantage.” So yeah, maybe you could dive deeper in how can someone actually use these to get their life in high performance?

Krystian: [19:45] ​Yeah, absolutely. One, the first step would be to understand. So in my course, I call serotonin the ultimate judge, the judge that sees everything, because it does, you can’t avoid it. Serotonin has evolved to scan your environment, scan the references in your life, scan your thinking, see how you’re doing in everything that you care about, and modulate your serotoninbased off of that. So it’s not a game you get to choose if you want to play or not, that’s the first thing. You don’t get to choose whether you will be judged or not and that’s a big realization. The second thing with self-improvement is to realize that dopamine is already driving you. Your dopaminergic system is already in control of everything you do, everything you crave, what feels hard, what feels easy, what you have to use your willpower to do, and what you don’t have to use your willpower to do. And when you understand that, and when you understand what’s at play, that engages your dopamine to actually make sure that you understand these systems and to actually channel them in a way that makes your life better.

Ryan:       [20:57] ​Wow, amazing. Okay so of all time, so I have an understanding of how you help people have a better understanding of themselves. Now, let’s say for those listening here, they’re learning about themselves, they’re learning about other people, they’re learning about home based businesses, what is another fundamental topic that you can share with us in regards to biochemistry and neuroscience, that they can actually use so they could see some type of results in whatever they’re pursuing or whatnot?

Krystian: [21:33] ​Absolutely. Definitely, I can share two ideas of all time. So one thing would be their overall health. I would encourage to not look at your performance and your ability to follow through with the actions you want, as some kind of magical fairy dust. If you’re serious about things, then I would encourage you to take an objective view at your ability to execute and understand that it’s a science in of itself. So I talk about two factors of success. And the two factors are, one, your ability to select the right strategy, which is the coherency between reality and your strategy – how things work and how you think they work. And it’s important that they are congruent.

                 [22:18]​And the second factor ways, which is very common in all kinds of endeavors, is your ability to follow through with the actions you rationally understand would make sense and would allow you to make progress. So when you look at things like that as your ability to build your business, includes those two factors, specifically in a home based business, emotional regulation, emotional intelligence, ability to keep high energy levels, even any social interaction. If you want to be influential, your energy levels are going to have to be high. And you can’t influence, or you can’t sell someone on something that they don’t feel compelled towards on an emotional level. If you’re super serious and if you actually want to make things happen, you need to embody what you’re selling. And if you’re not a competent individual, if you’re not someone that inspires, if you’re not someone that people look up to, you will not succeed.

                [23:16] ​And so health and optimizing your health is a very deep level of personal growth that often tends to be overlooked quotes. And as much as psychology is extremely powerful and psychology alters our biochemistry and alters our reward system, there are deeper things that control your energy, your emotional regulation, your ability to execute mentally straining activities, which selling, reaching out to people, all those things are influence. So even consistency at how big of a percentage of your day is spent in positive emotional states. One of the actions and functions of serotonin is actually that it modulates the amount of positive to negative emotion that you experience, and it governs your sensitivity to negative experiences, including rejection. If you don’t tolerate rejection well when you’re in any kind of sales, including network marketing, how do you plan on succeeding?

Ryan:       [24:23] ​Yeah. Bro, what is so profound to me is the resemblance between health and success, because like you said, people don’t really consider it that much. And what I’ve realized when I talk to any high performer, like a high performer is someone— I wouldn’t say any, I would say the majority, like for sure over 90%, someone who is a high performer, whether it’s a— Let’s just talk about business specifically, so someone who’s at least earning $100,000 a year, their health is always world–class as well, that’s what I’m noticing. And it’s just if you don’t have your health in check, you can’t really perform to your best of your ability. That’s what Krystian is sharing with us is if you don’t have your health at a world–class level, you won’t be able to have a business that’s at a world–class level. Man, I love that, bro.

                 [25:21] ​This is exactly the kind of tips and topic that we’re constantly talking about in our Facebook community, The Home Based Business Community. It can be really hard to find a community of like-minded people who are working towards similar goals. If you want to join the conversation there, it’sabsolutely free. So head over to ryanallenbell.com/community and click the “Join” button.

Krystian: [25:40] ​People, just because you don’t self–identify as a health person, as someone who takes care of their health, I hate to break it to you but we are not fully creators of our current health. You didn’t choose what you were eating as a kid, you didn’t choose how much you were moving, you didn’t choose your overall life or if you had a concussion early on. So it’s simply a game that you don’t get to choose if you want to play. Your health is going to influence your ability to succeed, and people who succeed do tend to be overall better functioning.

Ryan:       [26:15] ​A hundred percent. You guys have heard the, quote, “Success leaves clues”, and I think this is a huge clue for you is focus small steps to optimize your health, and over time, if you’re consistent with that, you will lead to a more successful life and a more successful business, period. I think that’s just a huge clue. I would even consider it like a principle to success is, be healthy, focus on your energy. Another thing that you talked about, bro was the two factors to success, which is number one, having the right strategy, and number two is following through with it. There’s a formula I use that I learned from one of my mentors, he calls it “Plan, do, review”. It’s“create a plan, do that plan, review that plan.” And so it actually sounds very similar to your strategy because in the formula “Plan, do, review” is you plan it, you do it, you review it. During the review is when you restructure it. Your like, “Hey, what didn’t work? What worked well?”, and you optimize every cycle that you go through, every “plan, do” cycle, you optimize it, and you just get better and better. And so it sounds very similar to your two factors – strategy, follow through with that.

                 [27:28] ​And I think that’s so important because think about people that go through life and let’s say even you and you’re listening to this right now. Maybe you’ve been going through life and you feel like you’re not on the right path. Maybe you just chose the wrong strategy. Maybe right now you’re just living the wrong strategy and all it needs to take for you to change everything about your life is choose a different strategy. And once you choose a different strategy, follow through, that’s the second part, follow through with that strategy, see if it produces change in your life. And then if it does, continue doing that, if it doesn’t, “plan, do, review”, choose a different strategy. Is there anything else you would want to mention on that,Krystian?

Krystian: [28:12] ​No, I think that’s the ultimate pattern basically. Create the right mental model of the world. Execute.

Ryan:       [28:20] ​Yep. A hundred percent. All right. So your online business, you’re literally teaching people how to optimize their health. That’s what you’re teaching. And I know from what you mentioned when you were a kid is the driving force was you wanted to solve your own problems. That’s what kind of inspired you to learn all this information. And now you’re an expert at itand now you’re teaching it to other people, helping them become world–class at whatever they’re doing. So currently, right now, what is the driving force that’s inspiring you every single day to give back to people and become the best version of yourself?

Krystian: [29:00] ​Absolutely. For one, it definitely would be that health is a continual process, it’s not something that I got, and that it’s done. I continually see how it is impacting my life and my ability to be my highest self. Second is definitely that I see so many people struggle, and they don’t even know that they don’t have to. I see so many people being completely disconnected,whether it’s like even mental health. The research surrounding brain health, the research surrounding hormones, the research surrounding micronutrient deficiencies, those things aren’t just fairy dust. Your emotions are biochemistry. And so I really just like before, am still disappointed in our general look at health and just how narrow it is. And when I look at high performers, when I look at people who succeed at very high levels, their ability to follow through is higher than other people. Things like willpower,self–control, your ability to get what you want, those things are so fundamental to living a meaningful life that it’s a subject that I see every day impacting people from— Even including how you look. When you’re not able to represent the standards that you want to represent, you think there’s a psychological principle called the halo effect.

                 [30:25] ​The halo effect basically states that whenever we see a positive attribute in a person, we automatically assume that they’re better in a bunch of other attributes that aren’t necessarily connected on any rational level. So for people to feel like they can’t even communicate or be the person that they want to be, and to feel that way because of their health and everything,once you begin to expand your idea, the concept of health, including BMI and how you look, but also more than that, your performance, your general ability to live your best life and to live up to higher standards, then health becomes everything.

Ryan:       [31:12] ​Wow, bro. It’s so fascinating to hear you say that because that was the void in your life and now you see that void in other people’s lives. And that’s your driving force that’s inspiring you every single day is yo like, “I can give this back to people. I want to see greatness in you.” And what’s fascinating with what you just said, is to live your best— Pretty much according to what you said is to live your best life, you have to have your health, like your best health pretty much. I think that’s a bold statement is like, if your health isn’t the best that it can be, you literally cannot live your best life.

Krystian: [31:48] ​Your potential is being handicapped, like, exactly.

Ryan:       [31:52] ​Yeah, 100%, man. I do want to talk about mental health brieflybecause I have a belief too – the skills, the techniques, the strategies for building a business, that’s simple to learn. We could go anywhere, we couldread any books, we could talk to anyone to learn, okay, what to do. I think the challenging thing, but it’s more important is mastering the inner game, mastering how we think on a day to day basis. And literally what you said is like the brain health, mental health, the willpower, all of that, that truly matters. Once you could get that, that’s when your outer world is able to reflect it. It’s like, okay, if you have your mental health, boom, all of a sudden, you’re doing well in your business, where you’re at and where you’re going. And I’m glad you brought that up. And this actually leads into what I want to talk about next is realizing the power of psychology when it comes to living our life and building our own businesses and realizing where human beings are at in general. And I want to ask you, Krystian, how has psychology played a role in your current business and what you’ve seen in your clients?

Krystian: [33:06] ​Yeah, definitely, it plays a major role because ultimately, my idea of health includes our worldview, it includes our philosophy, it includes the set of beliefs that we have because ultimately, those govern our biochemical responses. So it plays a major role because psychology is something we can access right now. Mitochondrial health and optimizing your hormones, those are all things that we can do but it’s much more difficult to change them right now. Those are all a little bit more long–term and that kind of get back to us and that we can leverage later on, but psychology is something that we have instantaneous access to. And we can look at our health as our potential. We can look at our psychology as how much percentage of that potential we’re using, and psychology plays a major role. I work with a lot of behavioral changes and with a lot of simply even changing our emotional responses to different situations. When it comes to health, changing your emotional responses to which foods lead to improved potential, increased potential and which foods lead to a diminished health, that helps. That allows us to actually associate pain and pleasure to the right things, to things that actually represent the consequences, the heaven and hell that we want to move towards.

                [34:33] ​And now how that could apply to business is simply the emotional attachment you have to a sales call. What kind of social interactions, what kind of energy, what kind of emotions do you associate those situations with? If you don’t have a cheerful, playful, confident, emotional attachment towards reaching out to people and understanding where they’re at and being able to help, you’ll stay locked up in your own room and you won’t leave it. And I can tell you to man up and use more willpower and go harderbut it’s not intelligent because we want your willpower to be completely somewhere else. So psychology is absolutely vital because ultimately,accurate usage of psychology is directed neuroplasticity. Like we’re able to actually change our brain and how it responds to everything, how we respond to life as a whole, how we treat people around us, what our role is,and everything.

Ryan:       [35:33] ​Wow, bro. So I want to see if we could unwrap something very quick and see if we could give a quick takeaway to the listeners. Let’s say someone listening here is in a position where they know they want to pursue something. Let’s say they’re building their business and they know they need to do outreach. Let’s say they know they need to talk to a lot of people, do their marketing, and whatnot. But let’s say that does not motivate them right now. Let’s say when they wake up, and they’re like, “Oh, I have to work my business”, they see it as work, not as pleasure. So what would be your best advice for changing their psychology or changing something in their life that encourages or changes them to actually see that as uplifting and inspiring? So what are some steps someone could take to actually change that point of view for themselves?

Krystian: [36:25] ​Absolutely, we would immediately dive into their values. And values are really positive emotions and negative emotions and which ones you love the most and which ones you hate the most. And more than likely, if they are feeling hesitant towards doing something, on some kind of level, not rational, but on an emotional, intuitive level, which by the way, that’s the discovery in 2002, Nobel Prize winning idea Daniel Kahneman, two systems in our brain – one rational, one intuitive, emotional. So if they, on an emotional, intuitive level, don’t feel compelled towards reaching that goal, there is some kind of conflict of interest in terms of values there, emotions they want to move towards, and emotions they want to move away from. So it also comes down to rules.

                 [37:13]​So if you have a rule for what has to happen in order for you to feel rejected, if it’s that a person has to simply not respond to you or if a person says no to you, then I feel rejected, that’s going to be a belief that is going to limit you. If you have a value that under no circumstances do I want to feel questioned or I need praise, every single person has to acknowledge that I am on the right path and that I am doing exactly the best things I could be doing. And even more unreasonable standards – every single person I meet has to praise me or I feel insecure. There are going to be rules and values that you have, and if you don’t feel clear on what you can do and what you should do, then you’re not clear about your values and what is most important, and what you don’t want.

                 [38:12]​If your top value is to— The number one painful emotion would be for me to feel like I’m not reaching my potential, guess what? That’s a whole different conversation, you’re a different person. If your top value is to have an impact, to contribute, whether it’s your opportunity, those things matter. My top value is health. And so when I speak to people about health, I am passionate because it’s literally in my worldview, it’s the thing that impacts us the most. And you could have similar connections to contribution with finances. If you have seen how finances have transformed your own life, how it has allowed you to make better choices, how it has allowed you to live in a better neighborhood, then maybe your ability to contribute is maybe surrounding finances and putting people into that place. So our values are not— We don’t have to speak about them for them to be visible. They’re visible in your actions and what you do and what you’re feeling compelled to do.

Ryan:       [39:17] ​Wow, bro, and how does someone figure out what their values are? Is there a test? Or how does someone go about “Okay, this is what my values are”?

Krystian: [39:26] ​Yeah, maybe that’s something I should create. It’s hard to. You could look at your decision making and really what feels right. What emotions do you enjoy the most? What emotions do you enjoy the most? And feeling competent, feeling powerful, feeling prideful, those are emotions that I enjoy a lot. And then so then I look at “Okay, what kind of rules should I have for what would allow me to experience those emotions and make it fun and enjoyable without me having to do a gazillion things and the moon have to be in the exactly right place? And there has to be 10, not 11 people cheering on me to the left of me.” A lot of people have very unreasonable standards for experiencing certain emotional states and it makes so that they don’t even experience their favorite states ever. Yeah, those are some of the ways to look at your behavior but looking at your actions and looking at what you’re compelled to do, looking at what you enjoy, and what you hate.

Ryan:       [40:28] ​Wow. All right, Krystian, we unwrapped so much stuff, very surface–level stuff. We went into biomechanics, biochemistry, we went into the archetypes, we went into personality, we went into psychology, values, mental health. Is there anything else that you think is fundamental that you want to share with anyone? Or do you think we pretty much covered everything that we should talk about in regards to this space?

Krystian: [41:04] ​Yeah, we definitely touched on a lot of things. I don’t know. I don’tthink I’ve missed anything. Nothing that I can come up with right now.

Ryan:       [41:12] ​Cool. Cool. Cool. Yeah, you guys, what we just dove deep into is a very broad idea of what drives people, what motivates people. And I would encourage you to really start diving deep into this, so you could improve your health because once you improve your health, day by day, month by month, year by year, what ends up happening is you’re optimizing your life. And eventually, you could get to a lifestyle that you perceive as perfect. And it all started with making simple decisions, even today, making a decision to like, “Hey, maybe I should study health a little bit further. Maybe I should make that a value of mine, make it a value to start pursuing health.”

Krystian: [41:58] ​Habits is something we could dive into. I don’t think I mentioned the four functions of dopamine as well. But yeah, either way, we can go eitherdirection.

Ryan:       [42:08] ​Yeah, man. Let’s go into habits for sure because I understand habits as they either work for you or against you. And there’s that quote out there, it says, “We can’t really control  what we do on our lives but if we could figure out how to make our habits work for us, that’s what controls our life.”Yeah, man, what’s your insight about habits? And how can we use that for our good?

Krystian: [42:29] ​Yeah, we first make our habits, and then our habits make us, right?And yeah, it’s the little things, the things that are automatic is really what matters the most. And what you automatically do, what your standard day is the bigger representation of where you’re heading. That’s why this idea of relying on hype, which is primarily adrenaline, it’s not sustainable. It’s not what is going to bring you the big results. So it’s very important to ultimately, we get what we tolerate. And our habits set the standards for what is tolerable.

Ryan:       [43:09] ​Yeah, man. I read The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy and he talks about this, he was like, “Just create small changes in your life”, like eating a candy bar a day for a whole entire year versus eating an apple a day for a whole entire year. That small little decision every day, like in the day, it might not make a difference, in the week, it might not make a difference, in the month, it might not make a difference but a year down the road, that’s where we start seeing massive changes with mastering our habits.

Krystian: [43:38] ​And that’s a powerful point because ultimately those little things do matter, and that’s actually what I talk a lot about. I actually made a video surrounding why moderation leads to poor health. And there was a study done where the researchers looked at people’s beliefs surrounding health, and people who believed in moderation actually had the worst health outcomes. And so if you believe in moderation in your business, you’re going to have some horrible outcomes waiting, because moderation, although it sounds good, and balance is important, I talk a lot about the balance between sympathetic and parasympathetic, especially for us high achievers. You running on three hours of sleep is stupid. You will not be intelligent in your decision making and it matters more than time. Smart decisions matter more than just hours. But ultimately, becoming much more sensitive to your standards being not met ultimately, your habit is breaking.

                 [44:40]​And it’s the boiling frog story, right? It’s the if you put a boiling frog in cold water, it will boil to death because that’s moderation. Just a little bit,just a little bit down a certain path. If the water is already boiling, if you already associate pain towards doing something two days in a row, towards— Because of course there’s going to be dead where even on my program, I have experimentation days rather than cheat days where we actually learn how different things make us feel, how different foods make us feel. And so that creates an emotional attachment to, “Okay, when I eat this, it makes my brain foggy and slow, and I don’t like being slow”, and so you stop craving that food. But it ultimately is important to be extra sensitive towards broken standards and towards even small dangers. You should treat them bigger than they are, it’s better. It will be better for everyone if you treat them bigger than they are, not smaller.

Ryan:       [45:35] ​So should someone just become hyper–aware of these little things? Or what’s your best advice for changing?

Krystian: [45:42] ​I think, understand creating division for what you actually want is one thing, and then you want to make sure that your emotional reactions are congruent with that goal. If you want to look amazing, but you are currently associating your number one thing that takes you away from a state of pain into pleasure, is a bag of chips, that could be an issue. And if the best way currently to relax is to binge watch 12 hours of a Netflix TV show, and you at the same time want to become a world–class expert at something, I hate to break it to you, but you’re in for a lot of disappointment. So it is really about sacrificing instant gratification for long–term higher levels of serotonin. Because like we talked about, you will be judged anyway, so why not be judged in a positive light?

Ryan:       [46:37] ​Wow, that’s so deep, man. Okay, I think we do have time to go into—You said there are four levels of dopamine?

Krystian: [46:45] ​Four functions that I know.

Ryan:       [46:46] ​Four functions of dopamine. Okay, so yeah, let’s dive deep into that. And let’s see, maybe you could go into how we could use this to improve ourselves.

Krystian: [46:55] ​Yeah, absolutely. So I actually just made a live on four functions of dopamine on three kind of standards for what constitutes a healthy dopaminergic system, and six different things that we can do right now to improve it. And the four functions are one, it’s literally what— Because there’s a lot of problems surrounding dopamine because people think it’s a pleasure chemical, it makes us feel good. The number one thing guys is dopamine can’t make us happy. It cannot produce the feelings of happiness or well being or pride. That’s your serotonin. So ultimately, pursuing dopaminergic activities won’t make you happy but the dopamine can contribute to higher levels of serotonin long term. But the first function is your want/desire. It’s literally the feeling of craving. Like the craving that Ryan feels to reach out and to make progress in his business is congruent with his long term goals. That’s what he craves. It’s not like he— Ryan, do you have to push yourself to do these things now? Or do you have to push yourself to take some time off?

Ryan:       [48:03] ​It’s the latter for sure. My wife is like, “You need to take a break, make some time for the family.”

Krystian: [48:09] ​Yeah, so we can choose our problem and we need to make this decision consciously because guys, this is the reality of getting to a higher level is this has to be what you’re automatically pulled towards by your dopaminergic system. If you’re not, you’re going to burn out. And now there’s, of course, still balance to actually get enough quality sleep, not just quantity, and be able to see how you’re doing to see if you’re just a mindless zombie going, hitting yourself against the wall, because that won’t make any progress. But that’s the first function. The second function is really aversion. So just like dopamine can make us do things, it can actually create that, “Oh, this is not congruent with what I’m trying to do. I’m in a state of ambition”, and then you’re able to avert. So the way to find dopamine is to fight it with dopamine.

                [49:05]​And yet the third function is reinforcement. So as soon as you accomplish something, as soon as— The reason dopamine is so involved in addiction is because it literally is addiction. What addiction is when the sources of what is able to provide you dopamine and what your dopamine is attached to have become narrow and are incongruent with what your serotonin judges you by. So reinforcement is really something huge. So the fourth function is effort perception, which is super significant because guess what? The health of your dopaminergic system will determine how you view hard work and if you feel like there was a long way ahead of you, or if it’s just around the corner. That’s a significant point I almost forgot.

Ryan:       [50:02] ​Wow, man. Wow. Krystian, you’ve given us so much knowledge, so much information. Let’s change gears for a bit. So now I’m curious, what’s your vision for the future? Where do you see yourself going in the next five years within yourself personally and for your business?

Krystian: [50:21] ​Absolutely. For me, I want to be the most competent health professional and performance professional in the world. That’s my ambition. I want to have the most intelligent problem solving, I want to understand the human being and not only on a scientific level, but to make it extremely practical, and to make it very actionable. And to ultimately create powerful strategies that kind of connect this practicality and simplicity of things with the benefit that comes from complexity, which complexity can lead to increased potential. And potential for transformation is huge and I’m really working on making it both extremely practical, extremely reliable and systematic. And to just become a dominant force in that field and to fulfill my potential, which I view it as expanding other people’s potential.

Ryan:       [51:17] ​Wow, yeah, it definitely looks and sounds like you’re on the right path to make that happen, man.

Krystian: [51:21] ​Thank you.

Ryan:       [51:22] ​Yeah, man. So since this is The Home Based Business Podcast, I have a belief. My belief is that the only way to achieve true freedom is to create a plan to quit our job and start a home based business. So I want to ask you the same question so our audience could gain a different perspective, not just from me, but from someone else who is a successful entrepreneur. So Krystian, do you believe that the only way to achieve true freedom is to create a plan to quit your job and start a home based business and why?

Krystian: [51:56]​ I would say no, but I would say it’s definitely a path that has worked for a lot of people. And also, it comes back to the two factors of success. I started in network marketing. I was in two different network marketing companies, and the amounts of things that I learned, I could not put a price on how much I learned, how many people I got to know, how much I understand the social animal that human beings are, thanks to that. So it’s paying dividends. Even though my career isn’t in network marketing anymore, the skills that I learned are paying dividends now in a business that isn’t a network marketing business. And I see so many people even attempting to— The skills that you need to develop in network marketing are the skills that make incredible entrepreneurs.

                 [52:58]​So is it the only way? Not necessarily, but I would say it’s very often the right way to develop the right ideas, to develop the skills to become a better version of yourself. And ultimately, if you don’t have some kind of other plan, then what is your plan? Because ultimately, with a job comes security, but there is also a gap for how much freedom, let’s not delude ourselves. Few people who have a job, live their dream, even looking at doctors. So no matter the profession, there is hard work to be made. And if you can have an intelligent system, then no matter how incomplete it is, ultimately, in order to truly optimize your strategy, you’re going to have to move forward. And that step forward is going to have to come somewhere,and the earlier the better because that allows you to have a very different perspective and much more intelligent ability to select the right strategy in the future. So I believe in bold action and in being relentless, but relentlessly intelligent, and so—

Ryan:       [54:14] ​Relentlessly intelligent. I love it, man. Yeah, that’s amazing insight for sure. Okay, so the listeners here, they’re either in a position where they haven’t started a home based business but they’re really considering starting one or they already have a home based business and they just want to optimize their current business. So based off of your experience, your perspective in business in the world, what is the best advice you could give to everyone listening today?

Krystian: [54:45] ​I would say ultimately understand that communication is much more about being than it is about words or saying anything. Ultimately becoming and focusing on your identity and who you are as a person, because ultimately people will join your business because of who you are and what you represent much more than what you say in the moment. So, I would say, ultimately, the path forward is to become overall more competent. And when you are more competent people are going to trust your advice much more. Get higher serotonin, basically.

Ryan:       [55:25] ​Hey, I love it. Yeah, one of my goals early on when I was aiming for a promotion within my company is if I had that promotion now, who would I be? And I started acting like that right now. And boom, magic happens once you do that. Yeah, man. So I’m a huge quote, guy and I believe the right quote at the right time in someone’s life can really transform their perspective of themselves and business and other people. So what is one of your favorite quotes that you’ve used over the years? Or it could be a recent quote that has really impacted your life that you can share with everyone today?

Krystian: [56:06] ​Yeah, even in my nutrition presentation when I enroll my clients and when we get them started, there’s a quote from Carl Jung there and it says,“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” That’s a—

Ryan:       [56:26] ​Wow, dude. Profound, bro. I love it.

Krystian: [56:29] ​Yeah, it shows a lot of principles there.

Ryan:       [56:32] ​Yeah. Wow, Krystian, man, I think what you just made everyone realize today is how important health is and how important having a powerful mental mindset and actually realizing the importance of understanding how the human body works. And literally, everything you shared with us is, even though it was at a very surface level, I think what has happened is you inspired people to realize “Yo, what we can achieve in our personal lives when it comes to mental health, when it comes to psychologyis we’re only scratching the surface. And there’s so much further, so much more evidence, so much more potential that we all have in us.” And I just want to say, the knowledge that you shared with us today was profound, man.

Krystian: [57:27] ​Thank you, Ryan.

Ryan:       [57:28] ​Yeah, of course.

Krystian: [57:29] ​Great questions.

Ryan:       [57:31] ​Yeah, of course, man. For those that want to get in touch with Krystian, what is the best way for people to reach out to you and connect,man?

Krystian: [57:37] ​It would be on Facebook. And we’ll definitely link the free group that I have, where I post a lot of this content, and where we get even more specific below. But it’s Health, Body and Brain Optimization Community. And yeah, that would be probably the best way to interact with me.

Ryan:       [57:54] ​Awesome. Krystian, thanks for sharing all your value with us today, man.

Krystian: [57:58] ​Thank you. Thanks for having me.

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